All right. Welcome to Project Violet Dove, ladies and gents! Mostly ladies, since this project will be focusing on the female population of the LGBTQQI community!
This website will be meant as a resource for young adults struggling with their sexual orientations. It is meant to inform and to offer guidance whenever possible, from a community of people who are dealing with the same things. I will also be posting relevant articles from everyday life whenever possible. Rest assured that I will be on top of my job!
As for earlier this week, October eleventh happened to be National Coming Out Day. I had meant to open the blog on that momentous occasion, but life got hectic. So here we are!
I would like to share something of my own, perhaps to make this a little more relatable for you all. Believe me when I say I know where you're coming from.
We're all born different, at least that's what I believe. We're not born to grow up in a certain manner, per se, but there are certain qualities about us that are with us from birth. I'm a firm believer that sexuality is one of them.
Today is a day when we celebrate differences: differences that are okay. Differences that are normal. So, you like girls...but you are a girl. Fantastic! That's just fine. Or maybe you're a boy who happens to like other boys? That's fine too! Or maybe, just maybe, your physical sex doesn't dictate your gender.
Whatever the case, whether you're straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or otherwise, you deserve to feel accepted. Your life should be just as celebrated as anyone else's, and today is your day to shine.
I, myself, am a pansexual woman. I identified this from an early age when I noticed that...gender didn't matter one iota to me. Just because someone was male or female didn't mean that I couldn't love them. People individually are not simply "male" or "female," not to me, anyhow. Gender stereotypes are socially constructed (truly), and physical sex dictates very little. I'm willing to overcome any obstacle for the person I fall in love with.
I say this with pride now, but I was scared for a very long time. Only just this past year have I found the courage to open up that part of myself to my friends and family and - thankfully - they have accepted me. I know that others are not so lucky, but it's important to start on a micro level. Internally. Give yourself permission to accept who you are. Everything else after that will be easier.
I am out now to the people that matter to me. All of my friends and family know. However, I do not wear my sexuality on my sleeve; to me, that's just one facet of who I am. And you know what? It's not a big deal. It's about as important as someone walking up to me and telling me they're heterosexual. Awesome! But that doesn't dictate your entire being, does it?
To those of you who are waiting to out yourselves, take your time - but don't delay so long that you lose your purpose. Live your life the way /you/ want to live it. Find courage in yourself and hold onto it. It's there; I know it is.
Let your love be the one thing that shines through. It lights even the most intense darkness.
No one should ever be afraid to love.
- from my public deviantART page; October 11thSo, just when you're left feeling alone, believe me when I say that there /are/ others out there who understand. And we want to help.
VioletDove
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