Nothing. :)
If we can't start with loving ourselves, it's very hard for others to accept us. The first step is to accept yourself!
So maybe you're questioning who you are in dealing with your sexuality.
Take a second and think.
Are you questioning yourself in order to further explore your inner workings? If you are, that's fantastically positive! The questions that should come to mind are along the lines of "So, am I attracted to X/Y?" Gentle questions, ones that are aimed neutrally toward your inner self and ones that require self-exploration.
Or, are you questioning yourself in a way that hints at denial?
Let's say that the first question that occurs to you is "There's no way I can be attracted to X, right?"
Hoooold up right there, because you're stopping yourself before you even get started! In fact, you could go so far as to say that you're moving backward!
That question right there is very loaded. Instead of asking yourself in a neutral way, you're connoting that your feelings are impossible or wrong. If it turns out that your feelings are true, you're denying a vital part of yourself - even before you can answer your own question!
Stop! Rephrase! Try again!
Ask a wondering question instead of a probing one. Most people don't like it when they're asked probing questions - so why would your inner psyche like that? :)
Be comfortable in your skin; you're the one thing you can completely claim as your own! However you end up answering your question, embrace yourself. You are beautiful, inside and out!
VioletDove
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